agent-nemesis:

When I write sex scenes, I don’t imagine myself in the situations I’m writing. I try to place myself in the character’s mind, whose likes and dislikes are different from my own.

The Deck 12 Recreational Lounge is probably one of my most well-received fics. But guess what? I fucking hate exhibitionism. It’s a fairly hard limit for me IRL. I get zero thrill from the fear of discovery that some people seem to love and it gives me enough of The Fear that the mere suggestion of it will kill the mood for me completely. However, the fic is written from Hux’s point of view. It’s about him, not me. If I imagine myself as Hux in the fic, then I can enjoy these things, at least in written form. That’s the sort of frame of mind I’m in when writing another character’s POV. I’m not me, I’m them.

(Sometimes I do write fics where I completely project my own desires onto the characters. I don’t know if people can tell the difference!)

I hope this helps! If you’re having a miserable time writing explicit scenes, then why not skip them entirely? Fade to black, or maybe allude to the scene (if it needs to happen for your story) in some way without having to delve into all the messy details.

It’s Saturday night and the doctor is in!